6 Ways to be an Ally
First, what does it mean to be an LGBTQ+ ally?
Engaging in ally-work goes beyond actively disrupting heterosexist and homophobic systems and ideations, and focuses on inviting critical dialogue and conversation around perceived differences to foster inclusive, productive alliances (Clark, 2010). So, what are some ways we can engage in ally work? Here are a few suggestions:
Educate yourself
Listen to individuals and activists in the LGBTQ+ community.
Read about the history of the LGBTQ+ community.
Learn about the systems that support and work against the LGBTQ+ community.
Recongize the alarming rates of suicide, substance use, and homicide in the community due to homophobia and transphobia.
Check Your Privilege
Recognize the privilege you hold as a straight cis-gendered person.
Reflect on how your sexual orientation and gender shapes your reality.
Be Actively Anti-Homophobic
Attend workshops on homophobia and transphobia.
Hear someone say something offensive? Call them out and use the opportunity to educate them or offer resources.
Use Gender Neutral Language
Ask individuals what their pronouns are. If you are unsure, try using “they” instead of “he” or “she.”
Try to avoid using language such as “ladies and gentlemen” or “hey guys” and instead use language such as “distinguished guest/friends and colleagues” or “hey folks/friends.”
Instead of saying “husband, wife, son, daughter, brother or sister” try using “partner, spouse, child, or sibling.”
Support LGBTQ+ Businesses
Shop at your local LGBTQ+ owned store.
Support companies that respect and stand up for LGBTQ+ rights.
Remember that Allyship also Needs to be Collective
Allyship cannot be done individually. Working together, we can create systemic change and foster a community where everyone is accepted, respected, and celebrated.
Clark, C. T. (2010). Preparing LGBTQ-allies and combating homophobia in a U.S. teacher education program. Teaching and Teacher Education, 26(3), 704-713. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tate.2009.10.006